Having been an English teacher for over 20 years, I know the power of words. However, I've never known that power to such deep levels as I am learning day by day through the medium of marriage.
A word spoken in a timely way can bring life, health and healing to a mate which is unmatched by any other word spoken by any other person. In the same way, a word with-held, left unspoken, that could bring life if it were simply spoken, is akin to a dagger in the heart.
I don't need to spend any time talking about words that hurt because that's a no-brainer. It's the pain of the unspoken word from the one to whom you have given your heart that is mind-blowing, and can leave someone reeling.
That simple, "You look beautiful," or "I can't wait to see you this evening," or I'm so excited to spend time with you," or "I love how you desire to provide for us," or "I am so proud of you," or "thank you for loving me so well," or just "thank you" that is left unspoken can become a flaming dart of the enemy. However, those same simple words, if spoken, can bring RIVERS of life-giving water to the recipient.
As I grow in my marriage, I am learning how to lean into Papa God and ask Him for the words to speak to my husband; and he is doing the same with me. My one word of advice after my whopping 3 1/2 months of marriage is speak those words of life, every day, and never assume your spouse has heard them enough or doesn't need to hear them. Life will abound with hopeful, life-giving words.
This is simply a reflection of God Himself: In the beginning was the WORD...that's how important speaking words of life are, especially in marriage! I am so thankful for my precious husband who seeks to speak life over me every day!
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